When Friendships Get Lost…
The pandemic taught me one thing: Friendships, no matter how close they once were, have no claim to be lifelong. This applies to all genders, with whom we are linked by certain phases of our lives. As can also happen in a partner relationship, we part ways at some point. We have grown apart, as it is then so succinctly explained.
While during the pandemic and its lockdowns the connections were still close because we had to remain in a kind of communicative prison, unable to meet and only able to keep in touch via social media or the old-fashioned phone call, the step into more normality, the return to the presence job, has changed a lot. Also in terms of friendships.
Ex-friendships due to lockdown
I had to realize that if the initiative does not come from me, I often hear nothing for months from formerly close friends. Also on messages by WhatsApp or SMS comes not rarely for weeks no reaction at all and if, then only on Nachhaken with the question “Did you not get my….”.
Despite all efforts and sometimes with deep regret, these friendships no longer seem as deep as they once were. One must then simply recognize this and also accept that the former friend:in have become only acquaintances. Even if you have known each other for many, many years, from childhood, school or shared jobs. The other person has set new priorities and no longer wants to invest work in the friendship.
Friended on social media
I think that it is often not even the case that some ex-boyfriend:in purposefully disregards me. There is not necessarily an intention behind it. The calendars have become fuller again. For many, I notice that they focus their social contacts outside of work on social media. And such platforms can claim you completely if you let them.
Then it also makes no sense to fixate on the friend:ing from the past and to question their actions. I’d rather focus on the few people who are interested in holding on to the friendship and keeping in close contact. Still, thoughts inevitably come up about whether you did anything wrong in the relationship that alienated the other person. Was I too critical, too controlling? Nevertheless, it always takes two to tango when things go wrong.
Falling off the grid
In particular, I am thinking of an ex-girlfriend with whom I had many ties over the years.… weiterlesen
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