Author: Isabelle Tschumi

Self-care or narcissism? Terms such as self-love and well-being have gained in importance, but the boundaries between healthy self-care and self-centeredness are often blurred. The question arises: when is self-love healthy and when does it turn into narcissism? Expert Isabelle Tschumi shows where the line is drawn. Self-care is a central component of mental health and should not be equated with a desire for recognition. There are clear criteria that distinguish self-care from narcissism. The following explains how to recognize the fine line between self-love and narcissism. Self-care means self-acceptance Self-care is often misleadingly confused with egotism – a more accurate term is therefore: self-acceptance. Because it is about accepting yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses. This form of self-love is not to be equated with constant contentment or positive feelings, but also includes the acceptance of negative emotions. Those who accept themselves experience genuine relaxation and can even alleviate health problems, for example by reducing stress symptoms. Many people confuse love with a permanent state of happiness. But genuine self-love means being true to yourself even in difficult moments. This promotes compassion for yourself and creates more inner stability in the long term. Inner freedom from external influences In Western cultures, many people find it difficult to be happy regardless of external circumstances. The Dalai Lama once remarked that people in the West often forget how to find inner happiness because they are fixated on external affirmation. Relationships, careers and material goods are seen as sources of happiness. But those who make their well-being dependent on external factors risk becoming emotionally unstable when these influences are removed. Self-love creates inner independence. It makes it possible to feel valuable and have stable relationships even without external validation. Those who love themselves do not constantly demand validation from others, but can approach their fellow human beings generously and patiently. Practical ways to more self-love Living self-love in everyday life requires mindfulness and the will to change the inner dialog. Many people often unconsciously treat themselves with extreme harshness and criticism. The first step is to consciously perceive and question these inner thoughts. Regular self-reflection can help to develop a healthier relationship with oneself. Especially in challenging situations, it is important to show compassion and understanding instead of judging yourself. Conscious awareness of one’s own thoughts also plays an important role. The ability to explore the effects of self-critical thoughts on your own well-being can create a deeper connection to your own feelings and help you to develop more compassion for yourself.… weiterlesen